While many holidays prove to be a difficult time for people, romantic holidays such as Valentine’s day are an especially important time to lend a widow your support. For those that have lost a spouse or life partner, these holidays are another reminder of being alone and missing their loved one.
Here are a few ways to remember that special woman in your life and brighten her day.
Supporting a widow on Valentine’s Day
Everyone loves receiving a Valentine’s Day card — either store bought or homemade — that includes a message about how special she is to you. Also consider writing a note sharing a story about her spouse. Don’t be afraid to their name, either. Too many people are uncomfortable speaking the deceased, but this kind of support will mean so much to the widow in your life. If you aren’ able to get a card in the mail in time, you can still make a call, send an email or even a text. The widow in your life will appreciate that you are thinking of her.
The gift of time
Offer to take her to lunch or dinner, share a cup of tea or coffee, go to the movies, or spend a few hours helping her tackle a project or two. Think of all the projects where you could use an extra set of hands to accomplish tasks around the house. Most widows will tell you that Saturday night is the hardest night of the week where they feel the most alone. Invite them to spend some time together, whether that is at home or going out.
Offer a hug
The power of the human touch is very strong. When her spouse is no longer there, the widow in your life may not receive as many hugs as she used to. Hugging is a wonderful way to connect to another human being and show your support to a widow. Plus, hugging is free so freely give them!
Give a thoughtful gift
Remember when you used to get those conversations hearts with the silly messages and how great it made you feel. When it comes to lending a widow some support, you don’t have to give anything big, just something thoughtful. It could be some nice chocolates, a lovely spring plant or some daffodils, or something with special meaning to you or her. She will appreciate you remembering her.
If you think that she would appreciate something to help honor her late loved one and work through her grief, consider gifting a copy of Rise Up: A Widow’s Journal. This prompted journal is thoughtfully organized into ten chapters that guide along various stages of widowhood, from finding oneself suddenly single to moving forward and living again.
Support a widow by helping with children — two legs and/or four legged
If she is raising their children by herself, she probably could use a break. Support her by offering to take the kids for an afternoon or evening so that she could have some free time to do whatever she would like. You could even offer to take them to their activities so she can just breath a bit. If she has pets, maybe you could take them if she is traveling or even walk them a few times to give her a break.
Hopefully this list has provided some inspiration and ideas to reach out to that special widow in your life to reminder her that she is still thought of and loved by many every day, but especially on Valentine’s Day.
Want more information on ways to support a widow? Help your loved ones that have lost a partner or spouse get through difficult holidays? Download our guide: Holiday Support for a Loved One.